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During the week of the sugar pills,
what is the effectiveness of the pill? Should I use other methods of birth
control when taking the placebo pill or is it still okay to have unprotected
sex?
what are the dangers of having sex
with a fake penis? could having sex with a fake penis have an effect on our
reproductive system, since having sex with a fake penis doesn't eject any
sperms? will your body feel natural after having sex with a fake penis?
i have been on the contraceptive pill for a while now, and have
been takin it correctly for around 2 years.but i have fears that i may be
pregnant.if i take a pregnancy test, will the fact that i m on the pill affect
the result of the test?
I have been on the depo shot for the last 7.5 years, and at the
6 year mark I was told by a nurse practitioner that one should not be taking the
shot for more than 7 years. Is this true or not? I can not find any information
regarding this question. Is there a time limitation that one should be taking
this shot.
What does it mean if a man's sperm has an odor?
hello. I have been with my boyfriend
for 3 years no and we just started having intercourse. I was wondering why I
never reached any kind of pleasure, it does not hurt as it used to hurt anymore
but I barely see any point in doing it since I see no kind of pleasure
whatsoever... He has no problem reaching climax and even if I am on top or
change positions or put foreplay I get somewhat aroused but not by the actual
intercourse. Any way of making that better or is it an actual problem?
I had molluscum treated with TCA 5 days
ago. The bumps themselves are now grey, and the surrounding area has becomes red
and rough, and hurts when my skin rubs against clothing. Is this normal, and how
long will this last? Amanda
I have had
sex with same guy twice and both times the condom got stuck inside me. Is this
because the condom is too big? or is it just not in good condition?
A friend of mine has recently been
complaining of a continuously itchy perenium. He has no other symptoms of an std
such as a rash or sores. Is it possible the itch could just be caused by an
irritation or dry skin?
I'm 18 years old and I recently had sex for the first time. It hurt a lot and I bled for a little while. I know this is normal, that the hymn breaks but I have been using tampons for years and have read that that breaks the hymn. We waited 2 weeks before having sex again to let it heal and it still hurt and bled as much as the first time. How many times do we have to have sex before it doesn't hurt anymore and stops bleading?
My friend and I have a really close relationship and feel that we're ready to have sex really soon(the first time for both of us). I'm 18 and he's 20. I know that I will probably bleed because I'm a virgin, but around how much does a woman usually bleed? I understand that women are different and probably bleed various amounts. But do some bleed more than a heavy menstral flow? I'm basically asking to know if I need to prepare for a really big mess or just a small mess.
My boyfriend and i had just recently decided to have sex. It would be my first time. I'm kinda worried about getting pregnant although he is going to wear a condom. I'm also worried that his penis won't fit inside of me completely. What info. can you give me so that I am more prepared?
well i am 18 with an uncircumcised penis and every time i go to put a comdom on it goes soft and that is a problem in my book what can i do to keep it up when putting a condom on
Me and my girlfriend have had sex maybe 6 or 7 times. I have had a problem with finishing way too fast (less than 5 min normally) and I have even taken Viagra prescribed to my father to stay up after ejaculation so I can keep going. My girlfriend has never had an orgasm during sex but does on her own during masturbation. She thinks SHE has the serious problem but I try to tell her otherwise and point out its as much my fault as she thinks it is hers. What can I do to last longer and stay hard throughout till she orgasms also?
I am a virgin and Im am going to have sex in the next couple weeks and i want to know what actually happens when to virgins have sex together. Friends tell me when they lost their virginty it was to a virgin and she bleeds all over the place, well i just want to know what happens and when i should be done
Every time I look at a girl I'm attracted to I automatically get and erection and I was wondering does this come from masterbationg too much? Before I started I barely ever remember getting a erection and now that i masturbate twice a day I always have an erection.I was also wondering if being a virgin had anything to do with it?
i jus recently lost my virgenity and while i was doin it i began to bleed alot all over the sheets. after we were all done the bleeding continued untill sometime in the morning the next day. my friends said that it may of been because he ripped me inside and im not too sure. Dose this mean that there si somthing worng withme?? should i see a doctor??
The other night I was masturbating and and I started to feel some pain. I looked to see what the problem was and there is a large, irregularly shaped lump that's pretty hard and sore on the side of my clitoral hood where I was massaging during masturbation. It's been there for 3 or 4 days now and its still sore. It appears to not be as big when I'm not aroused though. I'm terrified I ruptured a vein or something, but I'm trying to avoid telling my mom so I'm wondering if I do need to go to the doctor or not. If there's anything I can do at home, please help!
Hello. I am a male, age 17. Just wondering, what consistency is semen supposed to be, and is there any harm if some liquid comes out with it (during intercourse or masturbation?)
My last period started on August 26th. I lost my virginity to my boyfriend on September 1st around 2 a.m. Then we had sex again around 9 a.m. Both times we were unprotected, but he pulled out before he ejaculated both times. I went on September 2nd and got the morning after pill and took it around 3:45 p.m. I was wondering what are the chances of me being pregnant even though he pulled out and I took the morning after pill? The second time I had sex I started to bleed and I was really sore both times. Is that normal to bleed during sex and to be sore the first time you have sex?
If you don't orgasm, can you get pregnant?
What is a
"female" orgasm? What happens? Do females "cum"?
Why do people
have sex if they are not trying to have children? And statistics of what
men say vs. women.
Do men like
having their prostate touched?
How many
women & men aged 14-21 masturbate?
Is it safe to
engage in oral sex if there's a presence of KY jelly on the genitalia?
For some reason I am very attracted to
women's feet.
Is this sort of fetish common?
Is there any way to prevent getting an erection while
you might be aroused by some external stimulus you're still not interested
in sex?
When a women has an orgasm should she like a man also
have some kind of ejaculation?
Is it all right to have sex during menstruation ?
Is oral sex harmful to either party?
What is the median age today that young adults engage
in sex?
I ejaculated very soon after I inserted my penis. Less
than a minute. What's the problem?
I am a 23 male. I like to perform oral sex for my friend and I don't mind if he ejaculates in my mouth. Is there any harm if I swallowed the sperm. We do not have any sexual diseases.
I am a male who is a virgin & getting
married shortly. I need to know how to properly insert my penis into the vagina & also I am wondering if I might experience any pain if my foreskin gets pulled back during intercourse.
My girlfriend and I are between the age of 21-25 and both of us are virgins. We plan to have sex and my question is which sex position is best suited for us, as first-timers?
For some reason I can't stay erect with a condom on. When I put it on it just goes limp. Now my girlfriend is on the pill so we can have sex with the condom off. How effective is the pill and should I worry about her becoming pregnant while she is on it?
I have
problem inserting my penis into my girlfriend vagina. She is so
tight that I spent 3 minutes trying to get inside her and during the
process I lost my erection. I would just like to know if this is
normal.
When my boyfriend and I have sex I get extremely wet. So wet that he loses friction and can't feel anything and can't orgasm. Is there something I can do to prevent from getting so wet?
I'm a male and I've been shaving my hair around my penis for about
2 months and my girlfriend has to.....will that make it feel better when we have sex?
Can excessive
amount of ejaculation through masturbation cause some severe problem? Can it
cause impotency or any other sexual problem in the future? How can it be
stopped if a person masturbate too many times in a week. I am 19 years old and a few weeks ago I had sex for the first time. There after I haven't been able to
achieve an erection as easy as I once use to even when been sexually stimulated. When I do
achieve an erection it does not seem to be as erect as it normally was before and not as firm. I now have a hard time even getting it erect myself. Do you have any idea on what the problem might be and if so what I could so about it? My girlfriend
and I have been together for 6 months now and this past weekend we had
sex, we were both virgins. We have had sex 5 times. The times we had sex
we didn't use a condom (I know we should have). On one occasion when I put
on a condom I lost my erection. On another occasion we didn't plan on
using a condom and I still couldn't get aroused. Is there something wrong
with me either physically or psychologically because this doesn't happen
to me all the time, it happens sporadically.
My fianci an I are in our mid twenties, both college students have been together for 5 years. However, ever since she started taking birth control pills 18 to 24 months ago, her libido has become non-existent. We still care and love each other, and I have made an effort to curb my own libido consistently. However, to her the idea of me thinking about or desiring any kind of sexual
activity bothers her, including kissing. I am convinced it is a side effect of the birth control after talking with many other female friends and reading literature. However, she has no desire to either try different birth control or get off of it altogether. She is much more comfortable having regular periods than she seems to be in helping us build up a meaningful and loving relationship. No matter how much I try to talk about it nothing ever changes. I'm out of ideas and running out of patience. I love her and I know she loves me, but hugging is not my idea of a complete physical relationship with any partner I intend on marrying in the near future.
So many questions about sex. My boyfriend and I have been together a while and have started to have sex. I have had sex with him about 9 times. I have never had an orgasm and its not that I
don't feel comfortable with him its maybe that I try to hard. He also has a problem. He starts to go limp after a while. It
doesn't occur during oral pleasure and I was wondering what are some of the possibilities. We have talked about it and maybe its a medical problem or will this problem solve itself over good time?
My girlfriend and I have been together for 3 years. During the first year we were together we has sex once or twice a day. About a year ago we started having sex less and less each month. Now we only have it once a month, if that. I am always the one who initiates it, but I
don't bug her about it too often, and she always claims she's not in the mood. If we do have sex its when we
don't have much time, like 5 minutes or so. I have tried talking to her about it, but it never helps. What are some things I can try?
Hi, I am a 14 year old, with a new
girlfriend, who has had oral sex before, and I never have. I think she is
someone I would do this sort of thing with, but my penis isn't circumcised. I was wondering, if you could please tell me if she won't like having oral sex with me due to this reason? thank you for your time.
I have had sex 9 times now with my bf and at the
beginning it feels good but then its starts to get boring. I start looking and the clock and wait for him to cum. I have not had an orgasm and was wondering why it starts to get boring. I mean I really feel no pleasure
me more. Am I expecting to much since I am a beginner? Also sometimes he likes to change positions during sex and was wondering does the lower womens arousal and chances of an orgasm?
My boyfriend and I recently decided to have sex, and we're virgins. We were fooling around and got to the insertion but his penis wouldn't fit in my vagina. He said it was because I was tense. We tried different positions but it just didn't work. He could barely fit his finger inside. I know I'm supposed to bleed, but it just wouldn't fit. Is there something wrong with me? What should I do?
My girlfriend
has a very "tight" vagina. Since she's a virgin I figured this
is why the entire area is "tighter". Her vagina is also fairly
small. Having a large penis myself does not help us in this situation.
Even if she tries inserting one of her own fingers she's still in pain.
She has to buy the very slim tampons just because of the pain. I haven't
thought of asking her to relax until I came across this site, so from now
on Ill make sure she's fully relaxed. We experience foreplay together
for quite some time to make sure everything is properly lubricated and
still she's in pain. She's very worried about intercourse because she
feels if she cant insert one of her own fingers without pain my penis will
be out of the question. Is there anything else she or myself can do that
would aid her in not being so "tight"? Thank You.
My boyfriend
and I have been having sex for over a year and a half. Now recently after
about an half an hour of sex his penis starts to hurt, what could be or is
wrong with him? (He doesn't masturbate, and we have sex about once or
twice a week)
Me and my
girlfriend have been going out for 4 months and we fell in love. We have
foreplay quite frequently and we always feel extremely comfortable around
each other. We are both virgins and want to have sex. However, she claims
that she has never climaxed. She has been fingered, and has had oral sex
performed on her before, and I have fingered her...she seems to really
enjoy it and we then hug with our underwear on and rub against each other.
Is it possible she is unable to climax from mutual masturbation? She has
never masturbated herself before. She feels that having intercourse is
what she needs. Is it time for sex? or do you think I should wait and
figure out how to get her to climax through mutual masturbation?
How can I get
my boyfriend more aroused? Where are some places (or ways) on the male
body that I can touch him to become more aroused and interested in sex or
just foreplay. And for the female body?
I have dated
a few guys in the past 6 months. I have not had intercourse with any of
them. I love it when a guy fingers me and makes me come. After the guy
finishes, I notice that they always take a strong sniffing of their
fingers. why do they do this and do all guys do this or am I dating
weirdos.
The other
night my girlfriend and I were going to have sex for the first time. I was
erect and ready and when I tried to put it in, her vagina was so tight it
would go in and after 30 seconds of trying to get it in my erection went
down and it would go back up again. Do you know what the problem is?
Recently
during oral sex my wife has become very "acidic" tasting.
Afterwards the under side of the tongue burns and so does the throat. Any
Ideas as to what may be causing this and what could be done to correct it.
Why does it
hurt my girlfriend when I insert my fingers into her vagina? Is there a
proper way to avoid hurting her while still doing this? We're exploring
different things and she seems to enjoy it until until I seem to do
something that puts her in a lot of pain.
Every time my
boyfriend and I have sex I cannot orgasm I just feel an uncomfortable pain
and i just feel bad about it because I fake it what should I do should I
tell him the truth or keep my secret. is it true that most women cant
orgasm?
I was
wondering. My boyfriend of 3 1/2 years just doesn't seem to really
identify with me sexually. I mean the first year or two was great, but now
I can't read when he is in the mood and he can't read the same from me. It
is really frustrating. I have admitted to him that I want to have sex, and
he says that he wants to as well but things always seems to have to be
absolutely perfect for him. And every time I semi-talk him in to it, he
guilts me and says "Okay, lets go buy some condoms." in an Eeyore
sort of way. I am 21 years
old, and I've been masturbating excessively (everyday, once or twice, and
even cut class sometimes) since I was 16. I can't seem to keep an erection
when I'm about to put a condom on. I would engage in foreplay so I can
regain my erection but then lose it through penetration. It is very
frustration, I've tried to have sex with my current girlfriend four times
and still no progress. I can only keep an erection longer without a
condom. I wake up with an erection, so I know its psychological. Is it the
masturbation that's making me impotent? And, What should I do next.
Every time
my girlfriend gets excited during sex or oral sex she starts to cry and I
think this might be preventing her from having an orgasm. She thinks she
has had one in the past but she can't tell and it does not seem like she
has any now. What can she or I do?
When I was
with my first girlfriend, she always made me pull out before ejaculation
because it made her feel safer (although she was on the pill). Now, my
current girlfriend wants me to stay in (we're using condoms), saying that
pulling out can lead to sexual dysfunction. Is she right?
I am 17 yrs
old. I have now been seriously involved with a girl for 4 months. The
other night we were camping and were going to have sex (first time for me
but not for her). I was erect and all and went go get a condom and when I
got it out and put it on I was un-erect. It kinda bothers me. I do
masturbate once in a while. (once a week). If I go and stop masturbation
would this likely keep from happening? Also I think there was some
paranoia in there because we were making out earlier (20 min. prior) and
thought we herd her parents outside stirring around. 3 weeks ago,
I had sex with my girlfriend 3 times in two days. 1 for an hour, the next
for 30 mins., and the next for another hour. So, today, we start to get
into it, and I put it in and she tells me to stop because it hurts too
much. She even started crying because it hurt so much. I'm wondering if
this is normal or if she should go to a doctor or something. I'm worried
that I might have ripped something or permanently damaged something. What
should she and I do? My girlfriend
is obsessed with satisfying me anally with her tongue--it started almost
immediately after we met--is this somehow related to her psychological
make up. The fact is, she had a very bad childhood, unloving home, no
support, didn't speak to her parents for years, etc. Can you advise? My boyfriend of
three years has basically sucked in bed. He ejaculates so quickly that by the
time I am aroused, he is finished. He gets so excited , so quickly. Our
schedules are kind of hectic, so we only have sex about once a week. He says
that it is for this reason. I've tried many things (different positions, toys,
places) and nothing works. What is the problem? I'm an 18 year
old virgin but my boyfriend and I are really thinking about having sex. He is
not a virgin. My question is, I know that a lot of women don't orgasm often.
If I don't get an orgasm, should I just fake it? I don't want him to feel
inadequate. Also, should I be at all take charge my first time, or should I
let him do everything?
I cannot have an orgasm and I was wondering what I can
do to figure this thing out. I am very hesitant to masturbate and my
boyfriend,
with whom I am incredibly comfortable, isn't able to make me climax. Do you
have any suggestions or exercises that I can do to get myself more comfortable
with my genitalia? Can it be a physiological problem or is it usually a mental
problem?
Are there dangers from doing stuff with the anus? More
specifically, if a finger is inserted in the anus and then into the vagina,
is there bad stuff that could happen? Also, is licking the anus a bad idea?
I am asking more for just general problems rather than just sexual transmitted
diseases. Hence, the real question is how dirty is the anus?
I recently gave my virginity to my boyfriend and after
taking many classes on such a private topic I still feel ignorant. I was
wondering if something was wrong with him because he changes positions during
sex and once said that he had to go to the bathroom (yes. during sex). I am
inexperieced and I do not know how to keep someone intersted during sex and I
do not feel a connection between us during sex. HELP! I never had an orgasm
and he never got excited enough to ejaculate during sex.
I found I have genital warts this past March. I was told by the NP at my
university that the virus is a life-long infection. However, I have read a lot
of material that states in most cases (90%) the virus is cleared from the body
within 1-2 years. I am scared about starting new relationships because I am
afraid of transmitting this virus to my partner. I know that HPV is extremely
common and that only a few individuals (like myself) will develop symptoms. If I
have warts am I still just as able to clear the virus as those individuals that
do not know they are infected? How should I go about dating? I wish there were
concrete evidence to give all of us with HPV peace of mind. Thank you for your
time. -Optimistic-
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